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Life update

Hi everyone! It’s Jess AKA the Extra Ounce. You may have noticed I haven’t posted in a couple of weeks. So I thought I’d give you a bit of a life update as to why that is and where I’m at. So I moved into my apartment at the start of the month. Which was exceptionally full on because we had a week between signing … Continue reading Life update

theextraounceApril 25, 2019April 25, 20191 Comment

Who am I?

Hi folks! I’m Jess.

I’m a mental health advocate from Melbourne, Australia. I work to destigmatise mental illness as a Peer Ambassador with SANE Australia and as a speaker for batyr.

I have just completed my Honours in Psychology. I also work as a research assistant and NDIS educator.

I have lived experience of Anorexia, C-PTSD, Bipolar disorder and Anxiety.

I love to write poetry, sing and play footy. My best friend is my greyhound child named Holly.

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I haven’t been active on here in a while. Am I sorry? I thought I was but not really. The truth is I have been going through some pretty intense changes. I started a new full time job and I have been making massive in roads with my trauma work. I just really haven’t felt like documenting it. I needed to put my own processing first. So you may see less of me for a while but don’t worry, I’m doing my best. 💜. . If you got something out of this post, please consider buying me a coffee at the link in bio. ☕️. . Image description: A blue background with white text that reads “stop apologising for putting your own needs first.”

I love this chair. It is the chair in my psychologists office. I call it my chair. But it is wild to think about how many others tears and fears it has seen. I love this chair for grounding me when I am dissociating with its soft velvet touch. I love the way it’s emerald hue makes me smile when I walk in. I love hugging it’s dragon fly cushion when I am feeling guarded. I love this chair for holding me when I so desperately needed to be held. I love this chair. 💚. . If you got something out of this post, please consider buying me a coffee at the link in bio. ☕️. . Image description: A photograph of an emerald green reading chair with a dragon fly cushion.

Saying “no offence” after saying something terribly offensive doesn’t take away what you said. It doesn’t give you the right to say whatever you want. The other night a guy tried pulling this on me shortly after blaming all gun violence on “mental people”. I told him offence was taken. There are consequences to your actions, people. You can’t just pretend they don’t exist. 🛑. . If you got something out of this post, please consider buying me a coffee at the link in bio. ☕️. . Image description: A pink background with white text that reads “saying ‘no offence’ didn’t stop it from being offensive.”

@mentallythrill This was me for my teenage years. Constantly trying to repress memories I was unable to deal with. I was in complete denial about what happened to me. I needs to maintain my fantasy world. I still struggle with this to this day. But developing strategies to face my trauma head on has helped a lot more in the long run. 💜. . If you got something out of this post, please consider buying me a coffee at the link in bio. ☕️. . Image description: A meme. The image shows a cartoon character holding onto their head, in pain, with red energy radiating from their head. The text reads “remembering a traumatic memory you’ve tried to repress and having to repress it yet again”

I recently completed my NDIS appllication. For those who don’t know, this involves really focusing on the things I can’t do and ignoring my strengths. It was pretty confronting and upsetting. But then I got thinking that acknowledging where I need support and outsourcing that actually does take a lot of strength. And it in ifs own odd way was empowering as it hopefully will alllow me to get the help I need. 💜. . If you got something out of this post, please consider buying me a coffee at the link in bio. ☕️. . Image description: A purple background with white text that reads “‘I cant’ can be an empowering statement”

New blog post about what I have learned from my suicide attempt a year on. Link in bio. 💛. . “I have come a long way since August 6th 2018. But I still have a long way to go. What I am about to share with you are the notes and reminders I have been keeping on my phone since that night, to remind myself to choose life next time. I’ve debated posting this as these lessons are deeply personal and often involve the people most precious to me. But if I can help one person who is suicidal not make the decision I made a year ago I will be satisfied. So let’s get into it, shall we? What did I learn from my suicide attempt? ⁉️. . Image description: A photograph of Jess at the Hobbiton set in New Zealand. Jess is sitting in front of a Hobbit hole. Red text to the left of Jess’ face reads “lessons from my attempt” red text on jess’ shirt says “new blog. Link in bio.”

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